When it comes to self-worth, how would you rate yours and those around you? Do you really understand what a wonderful, unique person you are and how much you are loved by others? Many don’t and it can sometimes be difficult to identify this in ourselves and others. Self-esteem simply put is the ability to love yourself and have confidence in your worth and abilities. From an energetic perspective, self-worth is found in the 3rd chakra along with feelings of being powerful and sovereign. Lack of self-esteem can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their personal potentials and can lead us to tolerate abusive situations and relationships. A very good exercise is to listen to your own self-talk and see what your messages are in various situations. If you hear messages that tell you that you aren’t perfect, acceptable, wonderful, a joy to be around and have everything to offer to the world then this most likely means you have low self-esteem. If this is the case, try to identify who’s voice you’re hearing….chances are, it’s not even yours.
Self-esteem is formed from many sources that include all of our early life experiences and what we’re taught about ourselves, others and the world around us. These messages form our beliefs that are either positive or negative (loving or fear based). If we were constantly given negative messages, punished, neglected, abused, had difficulty in meeting our parents standards, didn’t fit in at home or school, were on the receiving end of someone else’s stress or distress or had little or no positive messages and reinforcements in our lives, then chances are we’re going to have negative self-talk which in turn can lead to low self-esteem.
On the other hand, if we have a loving, supportive family, were encouraged, accepted, had acknowledgment of our feelings, had loving boundaries and were allowed to have our own experiences instead of being told what to experience, then chances are our core beliefs about our- selves will be positive, thus producing high self-esteem. Unfortunately, if those who raised us were also raised with poor self-esteem through their own negative programming, then it is usually passed down, generation after generation until someone breaks the cycle.
In order to change unworthiness, we must start to take a look at what is driving it and be willing to change our outlook on false, negative beliefs and messages that we perhaps grew up with. You may begin by looking at your core beliefs one at a time and challenging them. We can also begin to take note of all the positive things about ourselves and our life, even if they seem small and insignificant at the moment. Keep a journal and each day allow yourself to write down 3 examples of positive qualities you have shown that day. In time, you will build your self-esteem and begin to challenge the bigger negative, core beliefs you might be holding.
Doing self-work either through counselling, taking wellness classes, energy work and healing and learning how to change our attitude towards who we really are will definitely help to change both the perspective and the self-talk that is often responsible for low self-worth. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting individuals as much as you can and cut people out of your life who you know bring your energy down. If you know someone who is struggling with low self-esteem, it’s important to let them know that they’re not alone and that you’re there to listen to them. A nice word, a compliment, a hug, anything that can give hope to a person will go a long way towards leading them out of a dark place and into the light. Know that baby steps will turn into bigger ones and soon, you’ll find your self-talk becomes more positive which is the first step to reclaiming who you really are instead of who you’ve been taught to believe you are.
Until next time,
Blessings and Love,
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