The Essence of A Ghost

It’s that time of year again when the weather cools down, the leaves turn beautiful colours, pumpkin spice everything is all around us and we begin to think about Thanksgiving, Halloween and Christmas holidays.  Halloween is probably my favourite holiday, followed closely by Christmas and on this first day of fall, I’ve already replaced the summer flowers at my front door with fall mums, pumpkins and a fall wreath.  My thoughts now turn to the fun of Halloween night, which will bring so many kids to our door, as I participate in making the house look as scarily enticing as I can with the full effects of smoke, scary music, spooky decorations and of course, getting dressed up to terrorize everyone who ventures near.  Halloween is one of those nights where it’s fun to be scared, where it’s alright to take on the persona of someone or something else and to hide behind a mask for a while.  Can you imagine though being scared and behind a mask all the time, totally disconnected from who you really are?

It’s also the time of year when all the “haunted walks”, “spooky rides”, and “ghost hunting” begins.  It’s very interesting to watch how others will flock to events and places that might just contain the energies of ghosts, spirits, poltergeist and demons in order to be “scared”.  Last year, I had the privilege of being in Salem, Mass. in the middle of October with my family, all of whom are energy workers and we attended some of the more recognized sites that most definitely do contain the energies of what most people would call ghosts.  We were curious more than anything about the energies that might be there and we had all hoped to connect with some of these lost souls to try to help them.  As an empath, energy healer, teacher and transitional dream-walker, it was anything but fun to feel what all these ghosts were actually feeling.  Most of them died after being unjustly accused of witchcraft and being subjected to torture of the most agonizing methods and so when their physical body’s died, the emotions of fear, grief, anger and revenge prevented them from crossing over and left many of them earthbound.  This would be the state known as hell where you keep reliving over and over again nightmarish scenes that never end, that keep you in the darkness of your being instead of feeling the release from 3D reality at death where most people are catapulted into the light and higher dimensional realities.


It’s all good and fun to go looking for ghosts but unfortunately, most people don’t know what to do with one when they find one.  There are many TV shows looking for proof that they even exist.  I can tell you from personal experience that they do, and you won’t only find them in a graveyard; they exist everywhere and will often try to return to the places and people that are compatible with their own energy.  Ghosts used to be people, who died with unfinished business.  They are in a lot of pain because if they weren’t, they wouldn’t be ghosts.  They would have moved on into the light of love but because they left their physical body holding onto heavy, negative energies, they have stayed earthbound, wandering aimlessly until they can find closure.  During our Transitional Dream-Walking course many years ago, it was told to us that 98% of those who pass over get stuck in these lower realms and stay earthbound.  This just stresses the importance of doing ones personal healing work because it’s must more difficult to do outside of a physical body.

When I find a ghost, I will always try to give this being what it needs from my loving heart to help it move on and find peace.  That’s just who I am and it’s an ability that I’ve been gifted with.  This ability can also be taught if you’re open enough and we’ve incorporated Transitional Dream-Walking into our healing school.  If you’d like to get more information on ghosts and the paranormal, I’d invite you to our upcoming workshop on October 16 in Cornwall, Ontario called “Piercing The Supernatural Veil- Developing Your Paranormal Intuition and Cleansing Skills.”  It’s being given by myself and my work partner Amanda whom I’ve teamed up with to open “Good Vibrations House and Property Cleansings and Blessings”.  We basically will come to your house or property if you’re having any paranormal issues and clean it up for you by connecting with any energy and entities we find and helping them walk peacefully over to the other side. During this upcoming workshop, we’ll educate you and show you how to possibly help these lost souls to move on with their existence instead of just giving you a momentary thrill of connecting with them because after all, that’s just what love would do.

With Much Love, Light and Blessings,


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The Aura- Our Connection To The Divine


The dictionary definition of an aura states it is “An invisible emanation or energy field that surrounds all living things”.  The thought process for many is that the aura acts much the same as a light bulb would, emanating BECAUSE of the physical body, but it’s actually the opposite.  The physical body is the result of the aura, which is vibration and energy stepping itself down in frequency until it becomes solid and physical.    Not only do humans have auras, but every insect, animal, blade of grass, every cell in your body, even a rock would also have one.   The aura actually surrounds the body and can therefore be regarded as an extension of the body instead of something that simply surrounds it.  Energies that flow through the aura reflect everything about us as individuals including our personalities, lifestyle, physical and spiritual well-being or lack thereof.  Some believe it houses our spirit and higher consciousness while others say it provides a template of past, present and future.  The aura is actually a combination of all these things.

The Barbara Brennan model of the aura consists of 7 layers, with each layer interpenetrating all the layers under it including the physical body.  The first 3 layers closest to the physical body all relate to the physical plane, the 4th is called the Astral Body which acts like a bridge between the physical and spirit world of the 5th to 7th layers.  The closest thing to scientific proof that we have that aura’s actually exist would be Kirlian kirlian-fingerprintsphotography of which I’ve included a picture of.  Each layer of the aura also interconnects with each of our chakra energy centres, making it impossible for you to hide your feelings, beliefs, fears, etc. from your loving universe.  The aura is pretty easy to actually see with your physical eyes if the lighting is just right.  You may have experienced this at sunset if you were taking a drive or a walk, looking at a tree in the distance.  Often, you will see a shimmering or a slight shadow surrounding that tree.  We teach many different techniques for seeing and actually feeling the aura in our school.

The 3 layers closest to the body are called the Etheric Body, The Emotional Body and the Mental Body.  These layers all have to do with your physical, emotional and mental well-being.  A good energy healer will be able to scan the aura to see, feel or sense any blockages that exist in these layers that might be causing you disharmony in your life and facilitate healing work that will help you to heal those blockages.  The 4th layer, The Astral Body is associated with our relationships, past and present,  and this is where we find negative, psychic cords that can drain our personal energy.  Psychic Tie Cutting is a very valuable tool that we use to deal with such cords.  The last 3 layers all connect us with Spirit and they are called the Etheric Template Body, The Celestial Body and the Ketheric Template or Causal Body.   Each layer or body has a different colour, although those colours can change with the different energies that we carry, and each one has a specific purpose and characteristics.  We look at and learn about the aura in great detail during our classes.

So, why is our aura so important and why should be care about it?  Because it is our 2 way communication device with the Universe, Source, God or whatever you choose to call the highest vibrational energy there is.  If we bring in the Law of Attraction that has been extensively written about, then we understand that the energy and vibration that we give out is then replicated and given back to us….like attracts like….through our aura.  In our aura is all the information you’ll ever need about who you really are and what you’re doing here in physical form.  It’s you, vibrating at the lowest, physical frequencies all the way up to the highest, spiritual ones.  It is you, existing in not just the 3rd dimension, but in 7 different dimensions all at the same time.  Through healing work, the aura as well as the chakra system can be cleared of any energetic blocks (I covered this topic in a previous article), allowing your physical body to be healthy, your emotions to be balanced and positive and your negative beliefs turned into positive and loving ones.  Now that sounds like something worth pursuing.

Love, Light and Blessings


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Do Other Dimensions Really Exist?


For those of us who practice energy healing, we know that not only are our chakras a very important aspect in healing work but so too is our aura and energetic field.  To understand this part of our energetic make up, we’re also going to have to talk about different dimensional realities, which to many people sounds like crazy talk.  However, given the surge of interest in psychics, after death communication, getting your “cards” read and also in such things as angels, ghosts, disease, where we go after death and developing  your own intuitive skills, understanding how dimensional realities and our auric systems are connected and work together will help put the whole picture together.  I will be writing subsequent articles on all of these things so stay tuned.  This is a huge subject and there have been many books written on the aura but the one we use to teach from is based upon the Barbara Brennan model.  “Hands of Light” is an essential read for any energy healer or for anyone who is interested in the subject.  In order to fully understand the aura, we must first dive into how this 3rd dimensional world operates.  Of course, I will only being able to give you an overview on this since this subject is so huge and vast.

If we first understand that everything that exists is energy and vibration, it will help us to understand different dimensional realities and how it all works.  Our world and the universe that we exist in is known as the 3rd dimension.  In this dimensional reality, energy and vibration has been stepped down from a very high vibrational state down to a frequency low enough for it to become physical and solid.  If we could measure vibration from the lowest to the highest, this spectrum of vibrations would define our 3rd dimension simply because we can measure it.  But there are other dimensional realities that exist as well, all vibrating at higher frequencies and vibrations than we are, and therefore, it makes it difficult to detect them with our five, 3rd dimensional senses.  There are many instruments that will measure EMF for example, but they are still measuring energy that is coming from higher frequencies, manifesting into our lower, physical ones.

It has been said that a dimension is simply another state of consciousness and these other dimensional realities are vibrating much higher than we are able to detect with our five 3D senses.  Part of developing our own intuition, clairvoyant, clairaudient and clairsentient skills is to begin to tune into these other dimensional states of reality and I know that many of you already have (you just might not know it yet).  Often, these occurrences can’t be explained with the rational mind and that’s why we don’t often tell others of our experiences because they’ll think we’re crazy.   However, there are many things that exist in our world such as radio and TV waves that also can’t be picked up with our 5 senses either but still exist.

We often will use the example of water.  At a very high vibration, water becomes steam.  Its molecules are very far apart, and it may or may not be seen with the physical eyes…humidity outside works the same way.  On a hot summer day, you may step outside into humid air that you can’t see but certainly can feel.  When enough humidity or steam collects together, the molecules become denser and it will turn into rain, which you now can see, feel, hear, taste and smell. Then, as it cools down even more, it may turn into snow or ice, becoming more and more solid with each change in structure.  Think of yourself like that, with your aura being the stepping down of energy from higher, Spiritual vibrations down into the physical body you now have.  When your physical body dies, your solid, earthly molecules fall away, leaving you free to become lighter and less dense, reclaiming once again that original state of vibration of energy that you once were.  But I’m getting ahead of myself here.

Many believe that other dimensional states exist somewhere else but that simply isn’t true; many of them are here with us right now and we are all connected to at least 7 of them through….you guessed it…..your aura.  All of us visit the 4th dimension every night when we go to sleep and dream.  We are not physically there in our dreams, but our consciousness travels at night and leaves our physical body, taking us to all kinds of places while we stay safely in bed.  Have you ever had a really good nights’ sleep only to wake up in the morning feeling like only an hour has passed?  Or if you’ve ever had surgery and been put under anaesthesia, it feels to your conscious mind that only a moment has passed.  That’s because your conscious mind wasn’t present in 3D but instead was exploring other dimensional realities while you slept.

If I can leave you today with the thought that we are all energetic beings that have come from the higher vibrational dimensions down into dense, physical matter, it will begin to open the mind up to the possibilities that your aura does indeed exist, with 7 dimensions attached to you at all times.  Next time, we’ll continue this train of thought as I introduce you to your aura.

Love, Light and Blessings,


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Happiness vs Joy and Bliss

If I were to ask you all to write down 10 things right now that bring you joy, how many of you would be able to do it?  Give it a try….I’ll wait.  If you were able to get that list together, I’d like you to take a look at everything you wrote down and ask yourself if any of these items were taken away, would your joy also go with it? If so, then you weren’t tapping into true joy but instead were listing things that make you happy.  So, what’s the difference?

When we talk about happiness, bliss and joy, most people would consider these that same thing but they’re not.  Happiness is a quality of the personality while joy and bliss are qualities of the heart which also connects us to Spirit.  Most of us strive to simply find happiness in our lives.  We all desire more money, time, a better job, a hobby we love, maybe a trip or two, a nice car, etc.  Everyone has their own definition of happiness.  However, most of these “things” are external and will fulfill the desires of the personality for a while, but if we don’t manage to create these things or if we do and then they’re suddenly taken away, our happiness would go away as well, only to be replaced with feelings of disappointment, fear, anger, grief, unworthiness, etc.


Joy on the other hand is different since it will not come from any external thing but instead is an internal knowing, an embracing of what is instead of what we think should be and it is an energy and vibration that many believe to be unattainable.  This of course depends on how you view the world, what your beliefs are, what wounds you are carrying that might prevent you from jumping into your heart space to see joy in all things.  Joy is that feeling of excitement that you get when you hear something that resonates as a truth for you; it’s a knowing that there is a gift in every event, good and bad; it is having a positive attitude towards your life because you know that you are here for a purpose; it is the bubbling of ideas that come from your soul and the knowledge that you are capable of anything you dream about.  Joy is any experience, thought, action or belief that supports love of yourself and love of all others.  Once you experience true joy, you will never forget it and will always strive to have it as part of your life.

In this day and age, with the polarities of duality in full swing, it can be very easy to jump out of joy and go into judgment, to feel depressed and to see only the negative things happening all around us. Recently, I’ve noticed myself allowing external circumstances to influence my mood, to pull me into the drama of the world and see only imperfection around me.  Two weeks ago though, I was privileged to witness the birth of my latest grandchild, a baby girl who’s arrival was greatly anticipated with great joy….yes real joy.  Connecting with her little soul prior to birth and knowing that she was coming into our family for a huge purpose caused much excitement for us all.  I didn’t realize that just with that connection, the joy was already there and was fully felt when she finally arrived.  I am truly in joy when I’m in nature, feeling connected to all things, when I teach and now when I’m holding this new little baby in my arms.  The heart connection and the gratitude makes it an easy energy for me to maintain.

It can be difficult to jump from feelings of fear, grief, depression, despair and feelings of powerlessness all the way up to feelings of joy, knowledge, empowerment, freedom, love and appreciation all in one go.  As outlined in the book “The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent” by Esther and Jerry Hicks, they have created “The Emotional Guidance System” which is kind of like a ladder of emotions that can be climbed to finally bring you into true joy.  I would highly recommend this book for anyone struggling with not being able to find happiness and joy in their lives.  Gratitude and love is the quickest way to increase your vibration and mood and by setting your intent, you can become a deliberate creator of your own joy and bliss experiences. This is what we all strive for; it starts with the personality being happy, connecting with your heart to experience joy and then with Spirit to attain bliss….and it is possible for you in this lifetime.

Finding out what makes you happy and learning how to create that is a great place to start.  We also have to become a co-operative component in our own life for creating that joy.  If we are dead set on being grumpy, angry, withdrawn and just plain negative, then chances are, there is some healing that needs to be done for us before we can reach for something different.  I try to begin each morning by watching cute animal videos, by reading inspiring and heart felt stories and setting my intent for a great day ahead.  I feed my backyard squirrels and birds each morning as go around the yard and talk to all my flowers.  This may seem weird to some, but it helps me to connect with all living things, get me into my heart and to feel the excitement of a brand new day with all its infinite possibilities.  Find what makes you happy, what makes your heart sing, and do that….joy will quickly follow.

Until next time,

With much Love, Light and Blessings,


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Cleansing Your Personal Space

It’s very important for us to all have a safe place that we can go to when we’re feeling stressed out, hurt or in need of some much needed introspection.  As a parent, I can remember years ago when the kids were small and we lived in a tiny house, seeking the solitude of a hot bath for 10 minutes since that was the only place where I could close the door and hopefully get a little peace and quiet.  Times have changed, with the kids all grown now and the move into a bigger house where I am fortunate to have my office/healing room overlooking a beautiful yard as my center of refuge.  We all need a special space that holds our energies, where we can retreat to when needed, where we can be creative, where we can have silence if that’s what we need in order to hear what our own heart is saying to us.  Many find this refuge in nature, listening to the birds singing, or by water or even in a park listening to children laughing and playing.

As an energy healer, I understand the importance of having that sacred, safe space.  For anyone who has ever done healing work, you will know of the negative energies that others can carry with them and attempt to drop off to you during a healing session.  For those who work outside the home, I’m sure you encounter negative people all the time, either through working with the general public or perhaps there’s someone in your work space that is super negative most of the time.  It’s very important for us to try to keep our personal space, either at home or work clear of these negative energies because if we don’t, they will and can influence our mood, our ability to concentrate and to create.  We need to take control of our personal space and below, I’ve outlined a few things that you can personally do.  All of these are easy to do at home, but if you work in a crowded space, many of these things may cause your workmates to look at you very strangely.  I’ve also tried to include some more discrete ones where you’ll know what you’re doing, but no one else may notice.


  • Crystals have known healing and cleansing properties. Keeping a few scattered around you work space will help to repel negative energies that attempt to invade.  You can also wear crystals as a necklace.
  • Fresh cut flowers are also a great way to ward off negativity since you are inviting earth energies, beauty and fragrance into your space. A plant is good, but it doesn’t create the same energy as flowers do.  Besides, looking at beautiful flowers will also elevate your energy level, helping you to raise your vibration and the energy of the environment.
  • You can also purchase music that is specifically designed to remove negative energies. During our house cleansings or before doing any healing work, we will blast our space with this ear deafening, high pitched music which will often not only remove pesky energies but it also removes anyone who can’t stand the sound (it might also work on pesky neighbours- I’ll have to try that sometime.)
  • Burning incense or smudging your space is also a great way to remove unwanted energies. Smudging is a traditional cleansing technique that involves burning specific herbs, roots, resins and barks believed to have healing properties.  It is the smoke and the aroma that is said to have the cleansing effect.  Smudging also purifies the air space of airborne viruses and disease by releasing negative ions into the air which is why it was often done for those suffering from illness and disease.
  • If you are allergic or sensitive to smoke, you may also want to give essential oils a try. They work much on the same principals as smudging but instead can be evaporated in a diffuser (steam).
  • Using a chime or bell as another form of sound cleansing can also be useful. Crystal bowls, singing bowls and rattles can also be used to drive away negative energies.  Many types of healing music will incorporate these sounds as well.  I am fortunate to have a high heart, which when played, creates the vibrational sound of the heart chakra frequency, which lower vibrations don’t resonate with, thus causing them to leave.
  • This is actually the emotion of joy being turned into vibration.  Watching a negative person or energy hit a wall of this high vibration and being repelled by it is a sure indication that the laws of resonance really does work.
  • Usually, after I clean my space, I will use salt (regular table or sea salt works fine) around the perimeter.  This will prevent anything negative from re-entering my space.  Those who visit my home will find a line of salt at the front door.  My true friends who really know me don’t judge anymore but instead find it useful themselves because it really does work.
  • Raise your own vibration through healing work. When you are able to hold a high vibrational frequency, you will become like a bug zapper to any negativity that tries to enter your auric field.  Darkness cannot survive when it encounters light.
  • Intent is the single most effective way to protect your space and yourself. Intending to keep your space clean and clear of negativity will engage the Laws of Attraction and Resonance and will be made even stronger if you’ve done any personal healing work.  Along with intent would go prayers of protection, learning how to close your own aura and psychic tie cutting, all of which we teach to our clients and students.  Also remember that nothing has any meaning until you give it one, and this is where intent plays a huge role.

These things work for me and for many others that I’ve taught energy healing to, but there may be something else that works for you.  Whatever that is, use it, continue to intend it to work, and watch for great results.  Until next time.

Love, Light and Blessings,


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Sculpting Our Reality Through Beliefs

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Have you ever said or done something and then stopped and wondered what made you act in such a way?  What about watching the behaviour of others and wondering why we judge their actions or inactions as good or bad?  We are all conscious beings, tuning into the surface of what’s happening to us most of the time, but we are sub-conscious beings as well, and most often, we aren’t in touch with those parts of us that operate under the surface of our conscious awareness.  Although a huge and in-depth subject, I’d like to touch on an aspect that we will often deal with in energy healing and that is our belief systems.

Most people don’t think much about what they believe but it is these belief systems, which have been forming since the moment we’re born, that sculpt our lives for us.   As we enter this world, we are a “clean slate” so to speak that is ready to receive programming from our environment.  We have needs as well- the need to survive, to form relationships, to be loved, to be nurtured, to grow and evolve and we learn how to have our needs met based upon the beliefs that are taught to us.  First, our parents teach us all the things that they were taught and that worked for them; then, we learn from our other family members, then our teachers, friends, eventually our environment, churches, the world media, our community, society and eventually we’ll have our own experiences that either strengthen or weaken certain beliefs that we’ve been taught.  Everything we say and do, every behaviour, every fear, our wounds and many of our emotions are affected by what we believe to be true for us.

What’s important to understand is that what we believe actually holds the framework of what we will create in our own lives.  Beliefs allow us to function “normally” each day, help us interact with others and we will tend to be drawn to others who believe the same things that we do, thus helping to form a particular group consciousness.  There are many, many different group consciousness’ in our world and some vibrate the same as we do; but there are many that don’t, thus the judgment aspects of our lives.  Beliefs help us each form our own truth and problems can arise when we feel the need for our truth to be everyone else’s truth too.  As you watch the news and read the newspaper, you will see examples of this everywhere right now, with wars being waged over everyone’s individual or group beliefs, everyone getting upset about something someone has said that they either agree or don’t agree with….this is duality in motion and emotion. Group consciousness however, is very difficult to change because it will only move at the speed of the group.  All the beliefs held within a particular group don’t want to be challenged and when they are, you will see different factions of that group breaking off to pursue their own set of rules and actions based upon their beliefs.

It is important to understand that belief systems can be changed but must first be done at the individual level.  So, why would you even want to change your beliefs about something?  Unfortunately, most of what we believe comes from outside sources and aren’t even ours; they have been taught to us from others and will get passed down generation to generation unless we take on new beliefs.  Belief systems are either positive (based on love) or negative (based on fears).  Each one that we have serves us in its own way.  If our programming is positive and based in love, then chances are we feel uplifted, positive and are relatively happy in our lives.  But often, we are given negative, limiting, fear based messages that will and often do prevent us from having peace, happiness and joy in our lives.  If you’ve been told since the time you were born that you were a victim or worthless for example, then why would you not believe this?  This would become your personal truth and also would become your point of attraction.

When we can learn to go inside though, to listen to our heart and to hear our real desires without always defaulting to those negative beliefs that others have taught us, then that’s when real change begins to happen.  So, I challenge you all to take a look at what it is you really believe about yourself, about others and about the world around you.  Then, ask if these beliefs are based on love or fear- do they allow you to expand or cause you to withdraw?  You might be surprised at what you’ll find but this is the first step in deciding if it’s serving you or not.  And if it’s not, then perhaps it’s time for a change in thought and consideration of what new reality you’d like to sculpt that’s waiting for you right around the corner.

Love, Light and Blessings,


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Finding “Me” Time In A Busy Life


Have you ever had one of those days where you are simply so tired you can’t function or even think straight?  I’m not talking about a “goof off” day, where you just don’t feel like going to work or doing chores around the house but instead a day where you just know that you have nothing more to give and you need a real break from life.  Parents, caregivers, many professional people who are constantly on the run will understand what I’m talking about here.  Sometimes though, this type of weariness can sneak up on us before we know it and suddenly, nothing is flowing, nothing is getting accomplished and we feel like we just need to take a break from life for a day or two.  This happened to me last week.  Now, I don’t believe I lead a very stressful lifestyle.  I work for myself, create classes and workshops, do the odd tradeshow, write a blog, don’t have anything in my day to day life that I’d consider stressful, but last week showed me just how sneaky stress can be, to the point where I could simply no longer function.  In our healing school, we call this having a “Down for Maintenance” day.

Having just completed a family event last weekend, and preparing for an upcoming class in 2 weeks, I sat down at my computer last Monday morning to write this, my latest article, and found that my brain had suddenly deserted me.  There were no thoughts coming, no inspiration; just an overwhelming feeling of how tired I was and how irritated I was with myself that I wasn’t accomplishing all the things I set up for myself that day.  So, I decided that the many expectations I had set up for myself for that day were just going to have to wait (nothing was getting accomplished anyway) and I was going to allow myself to go “down for maintenance”.  I am so fortunate that I can do this; there are many who simply cannot take the time they need because of work, kids, parents, etc.  I closed the bedroom door, turned on a movie and actually rested, by myself, away from everyone and all the work that was waiting for me.  And it was exactly what I needed to do, just for that one afternoon.  It allowed me to rest, reset and recharge.

As a society, we have been taught to work, work, work.  To work, we’ve been told, is a good thing.  Accomplishments are good, getting paid is good, surviving is good, leaving your mark on the world is good, giving to others is good, working for a certain cause is good…and yes, there is nothing wrong with this but because of this conditioning and the expectations that follow, we’re also led to believe that we should always give to others first and give to ourselves last; otherwise, we’re being selfish….right?  We cannot give from an empty vessel. So, what happens when you’ve given everything you have away to others and there’s nothing left for you?   As they tell you when you board an airplane with a child, always put your oxygen mask on first and then put on your child’s.  Life is kind of like this too.  We must find a way to juggle of all our responsibilities, those expectations we have for ourselves and needs of others with our own proper self-care.  If we don’t do this consciously, then at some point, we’ll find ourselves sick, tired and unable to continue when our body takes things into its own hands and decides for us that we need to stop.

So, how can you, even if you lead a super busy life, find some time for yourself?  By scheduling yourself into your own life.  We make appointments for meetings, doctors, dentists, our car, our kids sporting activities, etc. all the time and we would never think of missing any of those.   When we schedule in time for just us, we need to make sure we don’t miss that appointment either.  Pick something that you like to do- meditate, do yoga, paint, draw, have nice hot bath, go for a walk or take a nap and do that for an hour or longer each day.  If you don’t have time for you every day, make sure you schedule yourself in at least once a few times a week or as often as you can.  When my kids were small and I was working part time, I would spend my days off cooking, cleaning, doing errands, etc.  By the time they got off the school bus, I would have just finished all the “jobs” I had lined up for myself.  It took me a little while to figure out that I could allow myself “me” time first and I was a much happier person when I did this….and so were they.

Learning how to love yourself and fulfill your own needs first before giving it all away to others can be a difficult thing based upon how you were raised and what you believe.  Next time, I will be writing about what belief systems are and how they sculpt our lives for us.  Until then, remember, you count; you’re important and giving to yourself first will ensure that you have something to give to others even though you may have been taught differently.   If you are a source of uplifting, positive energy because of how you’ve nourished yourself, then that’s what others will receive back from you.

With much Love, Light and Blessings,


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